Your Happiness is in your hands:
Most of the people do not know how to be happy, as they search for happiness outside them. When they are praised, respected, expectations or desires fulfilled they feel happy but when that does not happen and when they are criticized or their ego is hurt or expectation not met, they feel sad.
Is our happiness in others hands?
This is a big question and whoever gets the right answer for this question learns to live happily in all the situation of life, favorable or unfavorable.
On a certain occasion in a party a friend asked her happy looking friend as to whether her husband makes her happy? Does he take care of you so well that you always seem to be happy?
The husband, who was sufficiently near to hear the question, paid attention to the conversation, sitting up slightly, feeling secure, even filling his chest lightly in pride, knowing that his spouse would answer affirmatively, since he had always been there for her during their marriage.
Nevertheless, to both his and the others' surprise, she replied simply
"No, no he doesn't make me happy…
The room became uncomfortably silent, as if everyone were listening to the spouse's response.
The husband was petrified.
He couldn't believe what his wife was saying, especially at such an important occasion.
To the amazement of her husband and of everyone, she simply placed enigmatically on her head an elegant black silk scarf and continued:
"No, he doesn't make me happy …I AM HAPPY."
The fact that I am happy or not, doesn't depend on him, but depends on me.
"I am the only person upon which my happiness depends.
I make the choice to be happy in each situation and in each moment of my life.
If my happiness were to depend on other people, on other things or circumstances on the face of this earth, I would be in serious trouble!
"Everything that exists in this life changes continually: humans, wealth, emotions, behavior, physical body, climate, choices etc. and if I make my happiness depend on them then I would never be happy.
"Over my life I have learned a couple of things:
I decide to be happy and the rest is a matter of "experiences or circumstances;" Happiness will always be found in forgiveness and in loving yourself and others.
- …It's not the responsibility of my spouse to make me happy… He also has his emotional ups and down and when I see them not compatible to me I remain silent and do not react negatively. I love him and he loves me, often in spite of his circumstances and of mine, being unfavorable.
"He changes, I change, the environment changes, everything changes; Having forgiveness and true love, and observing these changes, that can be, big or little, but always happen, we must face them with the love that exists in each one of us. If the two of us love and forgive each other, the changes will only be "experiences or circumstances" that enrich us and give us strength. Otherwise we would only be "living together."
It is to forgive unconditionally, to live, To take the "experiences or circumstances" as they are, Facing them together and being happy with conviction.
There are those who say:
"I cannot be happy because I am sick, because I have no money, Because it's too cold, because they insulted me, Because someone stopped loving me, Because someone didn't appreciate me!"
But what you don't know is that you can be happy even though you are sick, whether it is too hot, whether you have money or not, Whether someone has insulted you, Or someone didn't love you, or hasn't valued you.
BEING HAPPY is an attitude about life and each one of us must decide!
BEING HAPPY, depends on you!
- Guruji Sri Rameshji Jain